I tried to update my iPhone to iOS 7 online and now I'm locked out of my phone. I can't get into because I'm not a developer, I can't restart, recover, or anything, because iTunes has blocked me out.

If you aren't a developer as it warned and you tried to install the beta anyways, then you are just asking to end up with a phone that no longer works. You may be able to wipe it and restore back to factory, otherwise you may have to take it to an apple store to see if they can restore it back for you.

Here's some instructions you idiot:
Shutoff your iDevice
Plug the cable to a computer with iTunes up (don't plug up the iDevice)
After shut off hold the home button and after 2 second plug it into the computer
now resest it to factoruy settings

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