Me and my boyfriend have been through a lot in the year that we've been together. My mother passed away in March and he was very supportive and even fought my brother for me but ever since then I've started seeing him getting more insecure. We both have trust issues but he always says he's not insecure and that I am and i don't trust him. There has been three instances in where I;ve caught him texting a girl:
Instance 1: He was at my house and his iphone was face down. He knows I hate that so I turned it up and saw a text from a girl telling him what she likes in guys. I caught him and he told me that she was some girl he was trying to hook up with his cousin but he wouldn't show me the conversation to prove me wrong. We broke up for a week and a half and he said why cant we be together. I gave him a chance and got back with him.
Instance 2: He told me had to work one day and I work five mins away from him, so I decided to show up to surprise him. Low and behold he's not there so I call and text no answer. He then texts me and says he's at work when I'm standing at his job and theyre telling me he's not there, he then flips it on me and says I started drama at his job. Then I find a condom in his pocket the next day. We broke up for a month
Instance 3: Now two and half weeks ago. We've been going good for a week after the incident with the condom, in which he begged to meet me and when I met up with him, he accused me of leaving him for another guy all because he lied. So the day comes and his phone by my face and it lights up, I look over and see a random number texting him good morning babe. He tried to snatch the phone and tell me it says good morning and that it was a girl he was talking to in the month that we broke up. I asked him if he was talking to a girl and he said no. The whole time he had been disrespectful saying I was looking for greener pastures and that I was having sex with all these guys and he has to use a condom and then its him that was in fact talking to a girl. I told him it was over and he begged me for a day, he loves me he doesn't want her, he wants me and he wants me to stop being insecure and he said he would hit me up in the morning because he loves me and wants to make it work. That's the last text I got from him and I haven't heard from him.
Usually, I'm the one who hits him up after a break up whether it be my fault or not. Form what I said does it look like he's distracted by this girl that's why he hasnt contacted me or is he over me and doesnt miss me? Should I move on?