Traditionalists: How do I get better at being the person who makes all the choices in my household?

Recently, my wife and I had a deep discussion about our life together and have come to the conclusion that all this liberal dogma about marriage and how it's "supposed to be in the 21st century" just doesn't coincide with our mutual beliefs. We still respect what the leftists are trying to create for themselves, but this lifestyle just wasn't meant for us. Apparently my marriage has always been very Conservative; I was just convinced that it was the "wrong way to do marriage" by the liberal media.

But now I have a different problem. I lack the confidence in myself, as a husband/leader, to guide my family into a great future… I'm so unsure of myself that I question EVERYTHING before I make a final decision. And when I make that final decision, everything goes well and I realize that I just didn't need to overthink it… I'm not proud of this, I just value my family's happiness too much.

I've read that self doubt is the result of a creative, fluid brain with a vivid imagination. I don't want to lose my creativity though; I just need to make faster decisions and have faith in myself (but how?). For an example: when I need to buy a phone, I don't want to "just buy an iPhone"; I want to make a quality decision for my family since I feel they deserve more than JUST "what everyone else has". But this also leads to my overthinking and perfectionism too…

How do I find that balance between making quality decisions and ruminating over the PERFECT decision?

Added (1). Just because I'm asking a question that isn't filled with drama doesn't mean it doesn't belong in Marriage & Divorce. This is very much a marriage problem. I don't care if your leftist values believes that All marriages should be equal with shared responsibilities; that is a personal belief and that has nothing to do with me. You imposing your beliefs on me is why I had all these problems in the first place… So, help me with this IN Marriage & Divorce. The liberal life isn't for everyone.

Ask yourself, how is it going to affect me in 5 years or even how is this going to affect me in 1 year. If it is a long term decision then take the time to make the right decision. If it is about what to eat for dinner just pick something. You are an over thinker, my husband is the same way. A lot of the time he will ask me what to do when it's not even something I care about.

I've learned that if you had all your decisions made for you as a Child then you grow up lacking the skills to be able to make decisions as an adult. Not everything is going to be perfect, some things just don't matter.

As for things like what phone to choose. I can say that isn't a silly thing to research. My husband bought an IPhone, I bought an Android, mine has terrible battery but I like how it functions better than his, but my phone is dead most the time… So it does pay to do your research.

So my suggestion would be to come up with a set of questions you could use to make these little decisions easier for you. Include the question "will this affect me in 5 years or 1 year" and then you maybe come up with a few more that would make it easier based on the type of decision. I'm not sure what other things you have a hard time making decisions with. But if it is something like what movie to watch, or what clothes to wear you will probably need to come up with a different set of questions to ask

I'm a creative person, making decisions has nothing to do with being creative. In fact I think to be creative you have to make decisions.

One of the things I have noticed about you is that you seem to lack identity. You seem to be in the middle about everything. Even the Agonistic identity is about being in the middle about it, you neither deny the existence or accept non existence of a God. It's in the middle. I don't know what that means but I think it has a lot to do with not being able to make a decision so you either don't or stay in the middle.