Am I wrong for treating my foster children like my own?

I'm 61 years old and have been raising children since I've had children (my 3 children, 4 grandchildren and now my great-grandbaby (4) along with 2 foster children(14 and 15. Even though it gets hard, I get pure joy out of it.

Well with my foster children I treat them just like my own. I buy them nice clothes, they are in private school, in church with me in their suits every Sunday and etc. Well recently I bought the 2 foster children an iPhone. According to my youngest daughter she says I can be nice but at the end of the day they aren't mine. Then went on to say it's wrong for me to treat kids that aren't mine like this when I didn't do any of that for them growing up.

My thing is, when my children were their age I couldn't afford to do any of them but I still at the end of the day made sure they didn't go without.

Am I wrong?
(I'm not going to change but it's still nice to hear others points of views)

Added (1). My other children are grown now, sorry if I didn't make that clear earlier.

No, it's not wrong. Some foster kids have gone through hard times, so they appreciate it when someone looks after them and give them love and stuff.

However, do not forget that iPhones are no substitute for attention, help with homework and encouragement. Make sure your own children don't get jealous.

I had also same problem. I didn't know what to do. I did ask to my parents or senior they suggest me to go and consult with any doctor or consultant.Don't waste your time. Please go and consult with your respective specialist doctor they can give you better advice.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with treating them as your own. That is what foster kids need. They need someone who will not treat them differently from the rest of the family. Makes them feel bad when they do.

The only thing I object to is the iphone. No kid "needs" an iphone. A regular cell for emergencies is all they need.
I can understand your bio kids. It does sound like you are treating the foster perhaps a little better than your own. Even if you have more money now and can afford it, it still can make the others feel bad.

Your daughter is right, you can treat them nice (as part of the family), but at the end of the day, you have to realize they do have other family members elsewhere.

I'm so glad to hear you are treating the children like your own. Children need that in their lives to feel a place of belonging and to feel important. I'm 16 years old and my parents just became foster parents. I couldn't be happier with their decision! We brought in a foster baby and treated her like apart of the family! She ended up becoming my little sister! Even if you don't end up adopting them you're still a huge role in their lives and basically still are family. As for your older children, I think they should understand that you didn't have the right income at the time when they were kids but do now. And they should find joy in you helping those children a new chance at life

There's 13 years between my husband and his youngest sister, and no kids in between. His parents were in a different, better financial position when she was growing up than they had been when he and his older sibling were growing up.

At one point when she was in grade school, they made the decision to not allow her to have or do something because their older children had not been allowed to have or do that thing because they hadn't been able to afford it. Both my husband and his older sibling thought that was a little silly. Mature, responsible adults understand that times and circumstances change.

So no, you aren't wrong to do different things with different children at different times. The theme of our family is, "We don't always get what we want, but we always get what we need."

No your not wrong in fact your very kind for doing this. Because of you those foster children are going to grow up knowing someone truly loved them enough to make sure they bathed, ate right, bought them nice things, and pushed them about their grades. Those kids will grow up with a lot less physiological issues because of you. You are doing the right thing by treating them like your own and not isolating them.

I think what you are doing is great!