Do I forgive him a second time?

My husband had an affair 9 months ago. We really gave our marriage a huge second shot and things were going really well. I thought the affair was all behind us and something of the past.

I downloaded 'Find my Friend' on his iPhone. Last night I looked at his whereabouts on the App. He was at his mistress' house. He denied it ( not knowing that I had it installed on his phone). Three lies in one breath. First he was 'at his father's house', then at 'work' then 'Coming home'

9 months ago, he promised me that he would never see her again. It started up again 3 months ago. I have tried 110% to get our marriage happy and healthy. He had too ( to an extent) but it happened again… This time when our marriage was doing really well. So confused! I don't understand and neither does he!

He is really really sorry and wants to do anything to repair our marriage. But I just can't go through that pain again.

Any ideas?

If he really loved you he would do anything to make you happy, not the other way around. He is intentionally hurting you and he knows it. I don't think he truly loves you. If he did he would be happy being intimate with you and only you. He wouldn't be looking to fulfill his sexual desires with other women. You said he is sorry. If he was truly sorry he wouldn't have done it to begin with. He knew exactly what he was doing. He did it once, got caught. Did it a second time, knowing it hurts you, and got caught again. He isn't sorry that he did it, he is sorry that he got caught! Don't put yourself through that pain again. You deserve someone who is going to love and respect you the same way you love and respect them.