I don't know what to do? Raising my nephew?

I've been raising him since he was 1 now he's 11. I love him so much. I'm 27 and I've given up so much for him until I feel he's so unappreciative. I don't have kids or time for myself just always working trying to provide. But now I've started giving him chores and he hates it and talks back. He thinks he shouldn't have to do anything. He's constantly asking for games and iPhones. He's also lying about any and everything now until I can't trust him. Anything I tell hi to do he does the opposite. I'm just at the point where I'm tired and want to live my life but feel guilty. Everyday is becoming a battle. His mom is unfit. I love him but so overwhelmed

Read the important parenting books such as, "How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk and Listen so Kids will Talk" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

Make him do chores to earn an allowance. He can use the money to buy stuff.

You've been raising your nephew since you were 16?

Nice try troll.

One of 2 things is happening here. Either you're not applying the right kind of discipline, or else he needs counseling. For example, all kids hate chores! But in a well run home, they do the chores anyway and they never talk back. That's because they don't want the consequences they'll get. You didn't say what you do when he talks back, but obviously it's not enough or it wouldn't keep happening. This isn't pointing fingers, but your life will be so much smoother once you get him to understand you run that home, not him. So in addition to providing love and support, you need to have a chat with him and get specific with him on which behaviors need to change and what will happen if they don't.

I mentioned counseling because if this is new behavior, he may be reacting to the fact he has no dad (apparently) and an unfit mom. You're doing a great thing here, but I'm sure you realize it's very uncommon. He's old enough to wonder why his parents aren't around, and it's also possible other kids are making fun of him.

His behavior is very typical of tweens and it's only going to get worse before it gets better. But if you can survive the teenage years chances are it'll have been a rewarding experience for you. You'll be amongst the honored guests at his graduations and wedding. You'll be the first one to get to see his children and you'll be the one he loves for the rest of his life for all you gave to him.

Puberty. These behaviours are normal

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