I honestly don't know what to do?

I'm 17, and I'll be 18 in a few months. I live with only my mom because my parents are in the middle of a brutal divorce.

Throughout my ENTIRE life, my mom has been very overbearing and overprotective. Up until about last year, she barely let me go anywhere with my friends. I don't like to have my friends around her because if she doesn't like them, she'll be very rude and cold towards them. They notice it and always tell me how much it bothers them. My best friend refuses to spend the night because of my mom. At one point I wasn't even allowed to see my best friend because my mom disliked her so much that I wasn't allowed near her.

My mom always make a habit of getting the passwords to my phone, laptop, Facebook, email, and whatever other password she wants, I have to give it to her or else I'll be screamed at. She takes my phone during the weekdays as well as my computer. I have two younger brothers and she demands no passwords or anything from them. I can't talk to my mom about anything without her judging me. I have never had a boyfriend because I know that my mom will go out of her way to make our relationship hell.

I didn't tell my mom I had a date to prom because I know she was going to give me a hard time. I ended up telling her and she got really mad at me and accused me of lying to her. I didn't want to tell her, I don't tell her anything because before the divorce, everything I said went directly to my dad, I could never just tell her something and have her keep it to herself. She yelled at me for 30 minutes before finally saying I could go to prom, she was very close to not letting me go. She was also mad because I changed the restaurant for dinner at least three times and I didn't have a set plan. I'm not one of those girls who plans ahead, I just take it as it comes. During prom, I put my phone in a purse under a table. I didn't check it for the entire night until the dance was over. My mom had called me 4 times and texted me 10 times because the tracker she uses to track my phone was saying my phone was offline. I never turn it off, I always am sure to leave on Find my iPhone. She doesn't understand that technology sometimes messes up. Prom ended later than expected and I went home to change and to hopefully go out to dinner. When I got home, around 12:30, she screamed at me and accused me of lying about even going to prom. I'd spent the entire day getting ready for the event so it is beyond me as to why she thinks I wouldn't even go. She ended up making me stay home from dinner and spent the next half hour screaming at me because my phone was apparently off and I didn't stop to check my phone during the dance, honestly I didn't even know exactly where it was. She took my phone and car for two weeks. She also said she didn't care if I were to get fired from my job.

My brothers are both crazy. Neither of them can be controlled so she doesn't do anything to reprimand them when they're behaving badly. A few days ago, my 16 year old brother got mad at me so he decided to throw a chair and multiple other objects at me and did not get in any sort of trouble. If I say the wrong thing, she takes my phone and my car for at least a week. I'm the oldest as well as the most mature child in my family, I always help my mom out when she needs it. I do my best to be the best daughter I can be, but when I make a mistake she doesn't let me forget it.

I wish she would let me grow up. I need to learn how to solve my problems without my mom always on me for them. I can't handle living with her, it's too much. I'm very close to calling my dad and moving in with him. I don't know how to handle her, if I'm not perfect then I get in trouble.

Maybe you could sit down and talk to her