Is it possible to make a random remote control car be able to be controled by iphone?

I have a new bright f350 remote control car and lost the controler( no i'm 13 not a little kid) and i want to know if i can control it from my ios 7 iphone 5

No you can't - the communication is totally different. You would have to rebuild the car to accept Bluetooth communication and then write programs for the iPhone. Or equip the car with Wi-Fi which is another order of magnitude.
Yes, 13 is a little kid - go buy another controller and be more careful with it.