Is this a sign my marriage can be saved?

My husband and I have been separated since Jan.a mandatory no contact order was put in place by the court due to a minor argument that led to him taking my cell phone when he stomped out of the house (which was the only phone we had in the house at the time)… I got mad at him and just wanting my phone back, I called the police… It was a rash decision and stupid on my part because I never realized just how bad they were going to throw the book at him. The contact order is due to be lifted sometime this week. We're starting to slowly talk again but they are very casual conversations.before, the convos were strictly bills.whenever I try to talk to him about what our future holds together, he just keeps saying that once the no contact order is lifted, we will discuss things… Yesterday, our cell phone contract with our current company ended and we had talked about switching to lower cost… I wasn't sure if we were going to be doing this separately or on a family plan… He ended up putting us together & used the money the new company credit us to get me the nicest Samsung they have out now instead of using it to get accessories for the iphone he got. Its way nicer than the free phone I was asking for. Do you think this means he wants to work things out? We talked several timew today & they were fun conversations, we laughed & told stories. He said he wants to meet up & go over things next week so i'm a little nervous. He is still telling me he loves me

Not biting.

It sounds like you might be able to work it out - although he's probably going to harbor a little bit of resentment (which might come up the next time you have an argument).

A lot of people don't realize that when you call the cops on someone, they are going to do their jobs - and not stop just because you aren't mad at the person anymore.

If you called the police on me and it was a petty thing and I had to go through all that I wouldn't speak to you again, but maybe both of you were at fault really I wasn't there, its hard to mend fences with broken rails, both of you may need a little counseling on how to communicate better or over come the hardships of the financial strain on marriges and fidelity is certainly a must

You know never say never

that being said

what you did… Was bad

so if you want to win his trust back you will have to show him

i hope so nothing is as sad as a failed marriage

the fact he says he still loves you is a GOOD sign

so become what he needs the most

and super huge good luck!

You two choose whether or not your marriage can be saved… I strongly suggest at least a few sessions of couples counseling when the no-contact expires, to help y'all get some perspective and to think about if both of you sees a future together…

Well, you're speaking and he made a decision that would seem to point towards him thinking you have some kind of future, but can't you just take it as it comes and be patient?

Try to build on the good moments. Adding positive communications to your history will help to dilute some of the hurt of the past. I do have to say I don't think him buying you a phone rather than outfitting his own was so heroic. That's only the right thing to do, not some huge sacrifice he made. It's the least I would expect out of an adult. I also don't think one could go so far as to think that means your marriage will work out. No one can really predict that for you.

Be thoughtful. Take things as they come and don't call the police over minor arguments. What he did was wrong, but expecting them to fix things for you rather than handling them yourself sets a bad precedent and causes all kinds of hard feelings. Minus physical violence, just leave the authorities out of your marriage.

You speak as if your marriage working is some kind of fate or luck. It's up to you… And him. When you take responsibility for it working, when you decide that you will do whatever it takes to make it functional and rewarding, it likely will be, but you're in control. It isn't something you have to wonder about like a lottery ticket.