My fiances coworker text her to hang out and grab lunch and drinks.is that ok? - 1

Me and my fiance have been together for 5 years. I have always felt uneasy about this guy, yesterday during breakfast she was showing me something on her new iphone. And while i was looking at it. She had received a message from this guy… She opened it and it said "hey i'm off today maybe we can hang out" and continued with a bunch of non sense emojis. I told her it mad e me feel uneasy and that its not ok for a male to ask another female out for a one on one situation when she has a boyfriend. I ASKED her to text him back and she just said " i'm with john" nothing else.i've been dwelling on it for the past day and it has really gotten under my skin. This really doesn't mean there's something going on but now its tarted to raise a flag. Last week we had gotten in to an argument and decide it was best we spent the night apart.low and behold we ended up at the same local brewery, where her and 3 other friends 2 whom were female and the Other was this guy, he was sitting RIGHT next to her not normal distance for friends in my opinion. IT made me really upset. And now this comes up. I definitely don't want to comeeacrosss as acontrollingg person but how should i approach this and ask her to tell him its not ok to text her like that. I asked her to do it yesterday and she said no that itsunnecessaryy because it was a "coincidence" and there was nothing going on. I want to be prductive about it and not blow up in my face.

she told me yesterday that i have nothing to worry about etc etc… But my gut tells me other wise. Advice anyon?

5 years? Dude, pull the trigger already!

I'm a jealous and crazy girlfriend so I wouldn't think that's ok and always FOLLOW your guts

Nothing is worse than the stupid texts with nonsense emoticons after it. I would be cautious as you can about this but it is difficult to control the situation without looking like a douche. So you need to not get angry infront of her atleast. If you need to put an a$$ woopin' on the guy you need to do it out of the way of her so she doesn't see it.

I would put up with that for about 5 seconds and then the $hit would hit the fan with her and him both. It's pretty obvious that he's trying to get in her pants and she really isn't discouraging him.

I don't know that she has done amything but he is trying and she is enjoying the attention.

Let me say this. There's nothing wrong with guys or girls having girls or guys for friends. But if you are going with someone and they ask you not to you need to respect their feelings. If you keep telling her that this relationship is making you feel uneasy then she needs to stop it, as you have ask her to do not told her to do. Then if you have agreed to spend the night apart and you find her sitting too close under the guy that you have asked her not to deal with and your intuitions cuts in that there's some thing wrong with that picture then you need to have a serious talk with her. You see your (gut feelings are like a females intuitions, you have a male intuition). If more women would follow their gut feelings there wouldn't be a lot of arguments, abuse, disrespect and all negative feelings that goes on in a relationship. So now your gut feelings have kicked in, and you probably feel like she is ignoring you telling her that you don't think it is right for her to let him text her, nor to have lunch with this man, and you think there's something going on because of how close you they are sitting to each other in this place. You need to calmly sit down I said calmly sit her down try to talk to her and get her to understand fully where you are coming from and how you feel about this man and their relationship with each other. Even if it is a friendly think it is still a relationship.usually if your gut keep kicking in there's something not right. Try to make her understand this and get a firm and mature understanding with her. But keep your cool. Because like you have said you want to have a productive relationship and not have it to blow up in your face. This is what the talk is about. Because you don't want to have deceptions between you, because you don't have time for time for it and don't need it.