PC/Windows version of itunes?

I have an HP Pavilion g series laptop and am a hardcore PC and Windows fan. It works efficiently and without hassel. I've never had any problems. My newest problem is with Apple. I bought an iPhone 4s and would love to have music on it via iTunes. I go to a lot of concerts and usually will buy the CD directly from the band, in order to have it signed. I love the fact that I (in theory) can transfer my CD content to my iTunes library. The problem is that once it's on my library, that's the extent to what I can do. My iPhone just will not connect to my laptop. It gets stuck at step 2 every time. I have let it sit, connected for (at the most) 3 days. Imagine 3 days without your brand new phone. Hell. After researching how to get rid of this problem and coming up with no solution that works for my problem (I must be special), I came across another problem. ITunes makes my laptop crash. There was nothing wrong with my laptop before and nothing else new was added to it. ITunes decided to freeze, shut down my phone, and destroy my precious We Came As Romans library of happiness. After uninstalling iTunes, my laptop was back to its usual amazing performance. So, I would like a PC or Windows version of iTunes that is more efficient and compatible with my laptop and phone that will allow me to transfer my CDs to a library or playlist, so I can have the same playlist on both my laptop and phone. Any help would be great because I have pretty much given up on Apple.

Added (1). Keep in mind that I can't use iTunes at all. I can't have it on my computer. It doesn't work and is a disgrace. Something to replace it would be fantastic.

WinAmp, although you still need iTunes to sync your iPhone.