Should I bump up her curfew?

My 14 yo daughter is turning 15 in two months, and she's very excited for her birthday. We're going to Six Flags and her boyfriend is coming along (he's even driving as he's 17 and she told me I could nap w/ the husband in the back… ), then in August she's allowed to get her nose pierced, which she's wanted since she turned 13. However, one of the things she's the most excited for is a later curfew - which she just assumes will happen.

We live in Manhattan. Kids often don't drive, they take the Subway or cabs or they walk. Her curfew is 11pm on Fridays and Saturdays, with flexibility depending on the occasion. She is very good about being on time for her curfew. If she will be late for whatever reason, she'll call and let us know or ask for an extension. I think 11pm is very generous for a 15 y/o, but all she does is talk about how excited she is to "not be treated like a child anymore." She wants her new curfew to be midnight or 11:45pm.

Should I bump it up? I trust her, she gets home on time, her group of friends is respectable. Yet anything later than 11pm seems too late for just regular weekends… If I were to bump it up, what would be a good time for a 15year old girl? Problem is, she looks and dresses twice her age… However, we have a GPS on her iPhone so we know where she is at all times.

Ideas, suggestions?

Yes. That way she'll have more time for sex.

Well if you child is dressing like someone who is 30, I would suggest you buy her a new wardrobe for her birthday. That is not her fault though, you control what she walks out of the house in. If she is dressing like an adult her and her friends probably are making adult decisions. And What are you and the husband gonna be napping in the back for? Why are they wanting you guys asleep on the way to six flags? And 11 is late as it is, why des she need an extra hour? Can she really get more done within that hour? Other than call you to be late and stay out till 1AM? I think its a bad idea and I think there's stuff that goes on with her that you don't even know about… Seems fishy to me

No, I'm an adult and I don't even like walking around the city at night I never go into Manhattan alone.

I'm myself a 15 y/o turning 16 this year. I think that is very generous because on weekdays my curfew is 9/10 pm the latest but originally it is 7 on weekends though depending the occasion it can be 1 am the latest. So it really depends the situations. I think every year or second year you should bump it up even just a little. If its weekends for 12 i think it would be okay. Though it is all on what is comfortable with yourself. And does a child get a nose piercing? Have a boyfriend or even stay later than 5? I don't think she is being treated like a child if she has all the things she wants. Follow your heart on what you want and what your comfortable with.

You've already let her grow up way too fast, scrap curfew all together.

Oh, btw, you're going to be a fabulous grandmother in the next year or so.

Don't bump up her curfew. Smh she's only 14 turning 15. Once she turns 18 then let her do what she wants. But keep that curfew and keep an eye on her. She'll thank you later.

1130 on weekdays 12 on friday n saturday, n sunday bak to 1130, i live n philly, be glad your child respects the 11 oclock curfew, here there's no curfew depending on the parenting.

Jackie,

It sounds like you have a very responsible daughter and you both seem to have a very good relationship. Rules and boundaries are put in place to keep kids safe, but it is also important to allow them chances to show maturity, responsibility, and that they are trustworthy. You and your husband will have to make the call that's best for the family. If anything, her curfew could be extended on a trial basis or even just extended in small increments.

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I honestly think she has enough freedom, you shouldn't raise her curfew. I'm 16 and my curfew is still 9 or 930