Why do I keep putting myself in debt?

I just realize I've got a habit of putting myself in debt. I just pre ordered my iPhone xr so that's $900 bucks I owe, I'm not really worried about that but already owe like $8000 in credit card debt and I'm 22! I just went to a Honda dealership and got me a Honda Accord 2018. I'm happy because it's my first real car. I've been driving my uncles hand me down 03 Malibu since I was 18. I'm appreciate the car ty en to me but I just needed something new but I owe $35k dollars now total debt. Mostly this new car and my credit card bills. But why do I keep doing this? Luckily I do have a job that pays me roughly $3000 a month so it's not like I can't pay a $500 dollar note but still. I was always told to buy what I like and a real man gets what he wAnts no matter the price but I do realize I'm In a lot of debt and I need to stop. How can I?

What idiot have you 'always been told' this by?

You stop buying things you don't need. Yes, it's nice to have new things, it's nice to have the latest and greatest, but if you have 35k in debt you don't need a $900 phone. That money would be better put toward paying off your credit card. You may be able to afford a $500/month car note (that's huge, btw-my husband and I pay only slightly more per month for our two car notes COMBINED), but how much interest are you paying each month for your credit card debt?

Having a good job is nice, but how are you positioned if you should lose your job tomorrow? How quickly will you be underwater and unable to keep up with your debt payments? Did those people who told you that a "real man gets what he wants no matter the price" also include to you how to file for bankruptcy and live out of your car?

"I was always told to buy what I like and a real man gets what he wAnts no matter the price but I do realize I'm In a lot of debt and I need to stop. How can I?"
If you win the $1.6B Mega Millions then you can follow that advice. For the rest of us, mere mortals, it makes a lot more since to buy what we can afford which isn't always what we want.

What did it get you?
It got you a situation where you are going to work EVERY DAY for more than a year paying for a car. WOO HOO doesn't that sound fun = not.
- yes, the amount is spread over multiple years, that doesn't change that you are going to go to work every day for a full year, simply to pay for a car.

And do you still live with mom & dad, so instead of having your own apartment you are going to have a nice car but no place to really take a girl to…

You earn - $36000 a year
You purchased a car for $27000 but once you add interest & insurance on to it, you will be at $36K or more.

You apparently want to make sure you don't get to retire early.

No matter what, do NOT go to "drive free, retire rich" or if you do, continue to ignore it.

Because debt is fun.

You've never learned the difference between want and need. You really couldn't afford either of the things you just bought. You're headed down the road to bankruptcy. I don't know who taught you your attitude about being "a real man" but they were wrong.

I'm not really worried about that but already owe like $8000 in credit card debt
If you have 8k in CC debt, you're already living beyond your means. Quit buying stuff you can't afford.

Why do I keep putting myself in debt? - because you are living beyond your means

I just realize I've got a habit of putting myself in debt - well that's a start by realising you have an issue. So kudos for that.

I just pre ordered my iPhone xr so that's $900 bucks I owe, I'm not really worried about that but already owe like $8000 in credit card debt and I'm 22! - not good. In all that debt and only 22

I just went to a Honda dealership and got me a Honda Accord 2018. I'm happy because it's my first real car. I've been driving my uncles hand me down 03 Malibu since I was 18. I'm appreciate the car ty en to me but I just needed something new - No, you didn't NEED something new, you wanted something new. Big different. You NEED to pay your rent, you WANT a brand new car!

but I owe $35k dollars now total debt. Mostly this new car and my credit card bills. But why do I keep doing this? - because you are materialistic basically

Luckily I do have a job that pays me roughly $3000 a month so it's not like I can't pay a $500 dollar note - but that job hasn't stopped you racking up large debts at a young age

but still. I was always told to buy what I like - that makes you sound like a spoilt brat you realise

and a real man gets what he wAnts - No, a real man gets what he can afford and recognises his limitations

no matter the price - the price? Loan defaults? Bankcruptcy? Subsequently in ability to get credit or even rent a place to live? Were you taught how to deal with that… Or you were taught just to take what you want and da*n the consequences?

but I do realize I'm In a lot of debt and I need to stop. How can I? - firstly, you need to cut up those credit cards and pay them off as soon as possible. Then concentrate on getting the car loan cleared and don't buy any more stuff you don't need til you have done so.

A real man takes care of his finances, knows what his limits are, and provides for his family (if he has one).

Want to stop it? Quit using your cards and pay them off as fast as you can.

Because you may be suffering from a mild depression, and feel bad!
and buying things, makes you feel good! Write down all things that are making you feel bad!
Forgiveness Benefits the Victim!
You may be a victim of abuse by people in the past, and were not able to prevent it
look for How to Forgive, by Michelle Beaudry You can't change the past, however YOU CAN CHANGE HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT IT!
keep credit cards, as an ace in the hole, in case an emergency arises, because you have a credit balance, does not mean you have that money to spend, credit cards turn your hard earned dollars, into about .80 cents!