Am I spoiled? And what can I do to stop it? - 1

I'm almost 14 and a male
Here my top 7 most prized possessions
1.ipad
2. Iphone
3.skis
4.go pro camera
5. Headphones
6. Bike
7. Xbox 360 and games
I feed the dog and take him for walks.
I clean my room
I mow the lawn and shovel snow occasionally
I make my mother breakfast about once a week
I make most of my meals
I have 90-95 grades in school
I give a lot of gifts to my family around Christmas and birthdays (probably spend 200$ a year)
I do a decent amount of non-required charity work (probably around 15 hours a year)
I'm mean to my mother occasionally because she is 53 and her mental health is failing
Me and my parents have a strong relationship.
I rarely get in trouble at school.
Have a a lot of friends
I'm content with my life.
I just feel so bad because I have all this stuff and I can't help being spoiled.

You are not spoiled, you seem to have a balanced life and if you are content with your life… You are good.

Not as spoiled as me!

You sound like a really lucky kid to have all that stuff, but your parents probably want you to have it because of that. Reading about all the stuff you do, you sound like the perfect kid to be honest- your parents probably just want you to feel good. If your parents see your happy and doing that much good stuff, getting good grades- they can't ask for much more from their child. They're rewarding you for how good you are. Have a chat with your parents if you feel bad about the amount of expensive things you own, but I think you deserve that stuff with the amount of good things you do.

Truly "spoiled" people don't feel bad but feel entitled to getting more and more without giving anything to others. Shallow people think that owning things, like the ones on your list from 1 to 7, are more important than their own character, morals or relationships. Narcissistic people are selfish camelions that can change their personalities, without most people knowing, to satisfy their self interest and take advantage of anyone.

Are you any of those things? Should you feel guilty for being given things? Do you use having those things to make others feel bad? From your age, I'm guessing that you're not paying your own way yet. If so everything you have is a gift.

Spend some time thinking about who you would be without the stuff. Start defining your core beliefs, character and morals so you don't confuse who you are with what you own.

Asking these kind of questions shows that you are beginning to think about who you are and your place in the world. The hard part is to keep examining your motives and to never stop asking these questions.