Bluetooth settings problem on Windows 8.1 Pro, iHome iMD8 speaker and iPhone media?

I have Windows 8.1 Pro, Dell Latitude 10 ST2 Tablet.
I have an iHome iMD8 bluetooth speaker, and a bluetooth settings problem.
When I go into Bluetooth; Settings>Change PC settings>PC and Devices>Bluetooth
and select the speaker, it will connect. It will not work however, until I go onto the Desktop and a popup comes up called Bluetooth device control, with a title on the top of "iHome iMD8".
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I don't want this popup to come up. I want for the bluetooth device to just connect 1 time.
Sometimes I find that the iHome will say it's connected, but isn't because I hear no sound out of it except for static. I find that when I disconnect everything on both ends then turn on the iHome then reconnect, it might start working sometimes, but not 100% of the time.
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I'm also trying to connect my iPhone and be able to view the media in an explorer window under "This PC". The iPhone connects, but it does not display this media folder. Furthermore, it does not even display in iTunes. I have all updates, and there are now 4 extra updates but not for anything pertaining to Bluetooth, iTunes, or Explorer.Bluetooth settings problem on Windows 8.1 Pro, iHome iMD8 speaker and iPhone media

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