Have i failed as a parent and let my poor son down?

My husband and i had only one child together, a son who is now 25 years old. We were both working parents and my son would come home from school and be all alone by himself. His entire teen years went this way and i never even had a single personal mother and chat even once. We never really bothered because he was quite, independent, had excellent grades and would spend all his time in his room either studying, playing video games, doing crunches or some other exercise.

His college years went pretty much the same way, all alone and isolated. He did however have a small group of friends back home but was a complete loner in college. He has a good job now and is close to buying his own home but he has had no change in attitude. He has a very negative perception of life and says that there's no true meaning and that life is nothing but a pathetic and pointless illusion which has its own way of ending. He has never had a girlfriend and from his iphone contacts i have found numbers of escort agencies and i simply can't believe this is what has become of the life of my son. I feel hopeless now and can't forgive myself for turning my own son into a robot.

Added (1). He does not go to gyms. He has purchased equipment and uses it by himself at home.

Yeah, stop making babies.

I'm 22 not half as successful as your son but we do have something in common, my parents were both doctors, never really had much time for me so they sent me to a boarding school. It was the best decision they ever took. Atleast i didn't have to return home to an empty house. I made friends i could talk to and today they're family to me. At the same time I love my parents a lot because i realize all they've done was for so i could be happy. These days they don't talk much and i'm home with them doing my thing. And i crave their attention. I have friends but i want to talk to them. Talk to your son no matter how old. Its important you tell him how much you love him and spend time with him. I might even be pushing it but you need to realise he has to have a positive outlook or no matter how successful, he will never respect life!

I wouldn't say you failed as a parent but you could've probably avoided this but not neglecting him like you did in his childhood. Plus he was an only child. That all added to the loneliness. Maybe if you would've payed attention to him and actually had meaningful socialization with him, he could've learned how to not be lonely and talk to other people. It seems his extremely lonely childhood has made him develope into and grow up as an introvert.

Z,
He had an emotional or mental illness.
Try to get a diagnosis and treatment.
Look at Depression.
Read: Daniel G. Amen's MD works on the brain.
•Major Universities have Teaching Hospitals look for Programs & Clinical Trials.
•See NIMH.gov, www. NIH, & www. CDC.gov
•Dovetail Alliopathetic & Intergrative Medicine in his treatment.
•Get A Moleskine Wellness Journal, A Livescribe Computer Pen & Evernote APP to take notes & organize.
•Look at APP: Epocrates for Standard of Care.
•think about a "Trust" to make sure your child is taken care of when you and your husband are gone.
•Do not feel hopeless, research anf find help!

If he's going to a gym then thats a good start, its a good way to meet or talk to others so he doesn't feel so isolated.

Nothing can be done now, that's for sure. He has chosen his path.

Failure is relative. He is not who you want him to be but he is who he wants to be. And if he isn't then it's his responsibility to become, not yours.

Yes, he may have been sucessful but not encouraging him to have friends over or go out during his formative years is a major flaw. You have indeed essentially turned your son into a robot. I feel bad for him. My parents are doing the same and I notice a few similarities.

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