I kinda cheated and I think my man knows?

Okay so me and my fiancé was having trouble he neglected me and made me feel lonely so I turned to another guy on Kik to fill what my fiancé left out. I felt bad immediately and deleted the Kik app altogether. Well tonight my fiancé asked if I had something to tell him. I don't know how to answer him so I didn't. Is there a way he is spying on my iPhone 4 and he saw the Kik messages even though the app Is deleted. I'm scared to death. My mind is racing. I just wanted some attention and now I think I may be in trouble

Maybe you are acting odd, and he wonders why.

If he asks you that question again, maybe respond with "what do you mean".

Also don't argue with him. No matter what.

First of all there's no "kinda" cheated! Cheating is cheating. And you need to tell him even if he doesn't really know. He will respect you more for the honesty. If he finds out on his own the trust will be much harder to repair!

Don't blame him because you screwed up. Accept responsibility. You are wrong, not him. Don't lie to cover it up, that only makes it worse. Then not only are you a cheater, you are a liar too. Marriage is probably a very bad idea if you are already cheating.

Speaking from the point of view of a betrayed spouse the best thing to do is to tell the truth, it almost always comes out in the end and the lie will make the cheating so much worse. There are many websites that will help you to figure things out, try survivinginfidelity.com there's a section specifically for people who have cheated to get support on how to fix things. You might also want to check out the book After the Affair by Janis Abrahams Spring; there's a chapter at the end to help you decide whether you want to tell your fiance or not, and the rest of the book is a great tool for you and your fiance as well. You might also consider getting yourself into counseling to figure out why you cheated; you may have felt neglected by your fiance but you need to find out why you chose infidelity as a way to deal with it when there are many other, healthier options. I hope every thing works out for you. If you do end up telling your fiance, be as honest as possible, please give him as much truthful information as you can as soon as possible, it will hurt, but lying further at this stage will only hurt worse.