Is it normal for me to be this way after all these years?
I'm 33 and a virgin. After getting rejected in my youth I just stopped trying. All girls are out of my league lol. Instead, I just worked out and worked and college. Got friends and all but everything else stays the same. So instead of the real thing, not to sound creepy, I just have some girl from playboy, a G rated pic, just kinda have her face on my iPhone. I'm a friendly person but I view crowds of people as non of my business. Especially girls. You're non of my business. I desire but never act. It's my second nature. Irreversible. So I mind my own and keep to my personal space. Usually thinking about video games and old movies.
Maybe not 'normal' in terms of statistics, but in terms of you as a person, it's fine. You have things to work on as a person, and it sounds as if you have a huge sense of self-inadequacy, which needs to be addressed. This is at the core of everything about you and is what is causing your continued virginity.
A real sense of inadequacy leaves you feeling not good enough (or change 'good' for any other positive adjective) and that is what you most need to change.
Start by imprinting a new belief in your mind: I'm TRULY GOOD ENOUGH. It may not seem like much at first, but nobody is inherently good or bad, it is the beliefs they have received during their lives which make them believe so. If you believe you are inadequate, then it is due to a message which was repeatedly given to you when you were younger, and you have kept it going as you move into adult life.
Start by telling yourself positive new things. I'm truly good enough. I'm attractive. I'm interesting. I'm feeling more confident. I'm feeling better about myself, and so on. But keep the first one as your main belief, I'm TRULY GOOD ENOUGH.
See if you can repeat this to yourself 1000 times a day for 100 days. This may seem like a lot, but you think around 100'000 thoughts a day, and I bet that few of them are really positive. It's time to give your mind another, much better message to get to grips with.
In the first couple of days, you probably won't feel that much different, and may even feel like you are lying to yourself, so it is important to KEEP AT IT during this time. What you will find is that after 3-4 days of practice in this way, your mind will start to register the new belief subliminally, and you will start to feel better about yourself. And what's more, you may be surprised at what else starts happening.
New feelings, new behaviour patterns, new reactions from others, people treating you differently, and so on. Whatever you imprint upon your mind will sink into the subconscience, and be recycled as new thoughts, new feelings, new behaviours and new emotions. A new you in fact, one who is truly good enough. And who's to say, virginity loss as well. (Stemming from the offshoot belief that I'm F***ABLE ENOUGH).
So repeat, I'm TRULY GOOD ENOUGH, 1000 times a day for 100 days, to change the way you think and feel about yourself.
I think it's normal
Is it normal? Doesn't matter, are you happy? That's all you need to consider
Yes to someone who wants to live alone.
Is it normal.
What is normal.
Go out to the bars, try different places, even if you go by yourself and listen to music there etc. You will eventually meet someone there for sure
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