My 16 year old daughter got suspended from school for stealing her teachers new iPhone X and selling it on eBay what should I do?

My 16 year old daughter got suspended from school for stealing her teachers new iPhone X and selling it on eBay what should I do?

Pathetic

You should ask her teacher to press charges against your daughter and let you daughter experience the consequences of her actions as the court decides.

Sell her phone on ebay

Cut her head off and leave it on your front porch.

Get a lawyer.

This is a loaded question. You have to get to the root of why she is stealing in the first place. I believe children are a product of their environment, so it is either she wants money that she is not getting from you and her mother/step-mother or she is acting out as a result of emotional neglect or mirroring actions of those around her. Depending on her up-bringing you may need to get your child taken to see a therapist because it sounds like there's a lot going on… These actions are not normal.

I need to ask what checking account or pay pal account did she use to collect the money for the i-phone that she stole?

And timing is everything, the last thing you want to do is react harshly to her behavior, she is obviously going through something and it needs to be addressed before it gets worse.

Your daughter/son sure is busy.

First of all, given that she is 16, you can't treat like a kid anymore. Grounding her for a month would be very silly, especially since the proper dynamic of a teenage life is to challenge the authority of your parent. She needs a more serious and explicit kind of intervention.

So, the first thing that you can do is to sit down with her and have a discussion about her behavior. The reason I suggest this is because you need to know how she, personnally, evaluates her behavior. You see, it's a lot less of a problem if she is genuinely disappointed at herself than if she is not. In the first case, you know that once she figures out how she made the mistake, she will avoid doing it again. In the second case, things are more problematic because she would be thinking that theft is fine, at least under some circumstances.

Another point you can bring up before she starts is that you do not know how to deal with this. By default, my suggestion is to treat her as if she is not your daughter, but as a friend who needs advice. Your goal is to determine if she understands the problem and is genuinely disappointed at herself or if she is too careless to see what is wrong. The only way to do this is to set the rules of the game so it pays for her to reveal that information to you. The rules are going to be that, as long as she is entirely honest, as long as she does not hide details and does not try to paint you a dubious picture where she comes out of this story looking good, you're not going to treat her like a kid anymore. And you have to make this credible, both for now and for future problems, so you can't ever go back on that. So, you do not yell at her, you do not get mad at her and, if you comment on her behavior, you let her explain herself first and you do it just as you would if your friend did something stupid.

In the best case scenario, she complies with those rules, gives you details she did not give anyone else and figures a few things out while she talks. I suggest that you keep some of the more sensitive questions for later in the discussion and begin by letting her first choose how the story should be told. The editorial choices she makes inform you of what she thinks, just as well the content of what she chooses to reveal and you leave tough questions for later because time makes people more comfortable -- it's an old trick when you design surveys.

If that is the case, what is left to do is to make sure she understands how she made the mistakes so it doesn't happen again and she needs to find a way to make up for it. My suggestion, if the phone was sold and you can't get it back, is to replace it. If she can't find a job, can you swing enough to buy a new phone, given whatever she got out of the sell? If you can do that, you can pay the balance and buy the new phone. If you spent severel hundred dollars, you can assume a minimum wage and find how many hours it means -- likely, something like 50 to 100 hours. If the phone was retrieved, she could ask the teacher what could compensate them for the inconvenience. Maybe he or she would like some help with their household chores, taking care of a funding activity for school, or maybe even has a few copies of exams for other classes that needs to be graded.

In the worst case scenario, she behaves like a kid and you have to treat her like a kid. I'm sure you have plenty of experience about it, so you can figure this one out.

Obviously, we all hope she sees the problem and is willing to make things right on her own. If that is the case, don't worry. She will turn out just fine.

Whoop her ***.

Get a lawyer and speak with the school