Was I wrong for making my 12year old daughter take a nap yesterday when she was grumpy and gave me an attitude?

She was out yesterday and today for fall break. I made her lay down from 3pm to 4pm yesterday because she was giving me an attitude and being grumpy. When I tried to tuck her in she screamed "no, no, no, I'm not taking a nap, that's weird." Her 4year old brother took a nap from 230pm to 4pm yesterday and I told her to either play on her iPhone quietly, read, watch tv quietly, or take a nap. I had work to do and she was giving me an attitude because I wouldn't take her to the mall. I work from home. Her brother has preschool every Monday through Friday from 8am to noon. She always wants to wake her brother up and she did sleep for 15 minutes and then complained about a headache when she woke up. I'm sick of her disobeying me and she also has a D in math. I'm going to make her do 2 woeksheets from the internet this afternoon while the little one takes a nap.

No not at all your fine. Maybe put her in time out next time if she doesn't take a nap.

You can't force her to sleep although my 12 year old daughter enjoys a nap on a Sunday afternoon after lunch.

Stop caring about her grades, seriously. The school system is broken. Oh and if/when she is grumpy to you, be grumpy back. Simple as that.

The thing about 12 y.o. Girls is that they have the benefit of knowing EVERYTHING and being MUCH smarter than their parents. [My daughter was in that stage for about 3 years (sigh)]. 12 y.o. Is a bit old for a nap, IMO.

Look, she is probaly full of strange new hormones and strange new feelings, think back to when you were that age and try to have a little sympathy (yes, they do not make that easy). Gentle guidance and suggestion goes much further than orders and coercion, in my experience.

So: Instead of "Take a nap" try "Are you tired? Would you like to take a nap?"

Look, its not going to work but it might reduce the tension and give her the feeling like she has a chioce, she is being treated like and adult and she can take a nap if she wants to.

Here's something else to try: "baby is asleep, why don't we do something together", I know it is difficult as a home worker to find the time for that. Obviously you can't take her to the mall, but could you make some cookies together?

Good luck, I hope some of this works for you. My daugter is now grown up and I hope we didn't screw her up too much.

Most kids that age get grumpy when they are tired. Did she go to sleep? Was she in a better mood when she woke up?

My kids hate to admit when they are grumpy and need more rest. The mere formation of the "g" word makes the go ballistic despite the fact that its true. It sounds like you handled it like a champ by giving her an alternative to sleep. But this should be a wakeup call to you to realize she isn't getting enough sleep at night for her to be grumpy and her lack of sleep could easily also be contributing to her poor grades. Sure more study can't hurt, but neither can an earlier bedtime.

It was wrong to try to tuck her in. The nap was probably needed. Teens need naps. Adolescence is exhausting.

There's only one solution for a girl of this age with attitude - corporal punishment. Every girl between the ages of 9 and 16/17 can and should receive stern correction of the corporal kind when her behaviour and attitude requires it. Nothing focuses the mind of a miscreant girl of this age more than the thought of imminent and painful punishment of this kind, administered by a fearsome and well tuned instrument of correction played with tremendous vigour in the great hall of the bare posterior. And when she has trouble sitting for days afterward, she will reflect on her behaviour and her attitude.
The belligerent young women of today with their divisive nihilistic attitudes would have been better served had their posteriors whipped black and blue - and even now it's still not too late to introduce such action.

She sounds exhausted, this might be overkill but I'm 18 and when I was a teen I would get angry because I would sit on my phone when I should've been asleep. You should check on her when she's sleeping or have a charging station. That's what worked at my house, so you can check the devices st anytime and making sure your daughter has enough sleep