What is wrong with my fiancee's behavior?

Okay. Let me tell you about him first. At the age 15 his mom and dad divorced and he thought it was his fought and tried to slit his wrist. His dad drinked alot and still does. He made fun of him when he drank. Ever since the divorce, he's been living with his grandparents. He is now 32 yrs old and is still living with his grandparents. We've been together for 9 yrs. I still live my mom. We've been trying to get out on our own and are getting a trailer soon. The other gfs he had before me hurt him really bad. Some were crazy. All of them cheated on him. When I first started dating him, I knew he was different. He plays pool, ps3 games, cell phone games. He acted a little childish. He's sweet, quiet, caring, sensitive and loyal to me. I love him to death and happy with him, but sometimes I feel he needs help. I know he's a loner and catch him talking to himself sometimes. I can't pinpoint what it is. All I know is that he focuses alot on his games. Guess cuz he's been stuck on them for so long. Its really starting to get to me now, because he needs to grow up and have more responsibilty. He doesn't ignore me, but it doesn't seem normal. He has an iphone so he plays games on there. Sometimes when he comes to see me after he gets off work, the first thing he does is play his game on his phone or my computer. I'm like hello, you don't want to spend time with me? He never played them on his phone much til he got this phone. Sometimes it's hard for us to have sex. His family always has him doing things and if not, he's playing pool or games. His sister has ADHD, but he doesn't act hyper. I feel like he doesn't listen to me or get what I say sometimes. It hurts sometimes, because I have to try and see if he's in the mood for sex. He gets aggravated easy. He smokes 2 packs of cigs a day and started at age 15. I know the first step we need to do is get out on our own. We're getting there.

He is immature and a bit sensitive emotionally.

It also sounds like he is not quite mentally healthy. Most men at 32 have a lot more ambition than this. There's probably a reason for it.

It sounds like you love him very much. That is very important.

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