Who is in the wrong here?

I texted my mom at 2 pm that I was attending a play about two hours long (To Kill A Mockingbird), but I would still have plenty of time to get my sister to a commitment at 5 pm. The part where Bob Ewell tries to kill Jim and Scout comes up and she plays the Find My iPhone ping on my phone, which I had silenced as a part of theatre courtesy. I scramble to leave, and every time I turn the sound off, she plays it again. Finally, I get outside and call her, and she s livid because there are five minutes left in the play and it's about 4:10. I leave the school right then, pick up my sister, drop her off, go home. It is now about 4:30. Mom calls again, and I'm grounded because I was upset with her for disturbing the performance, when I got my sister to her thing WELL before she s actually supposed to be there. I start crying, she tells me that I can't see my friends for the rest of the year. Everyone in my family is pissed with me and I don't understand why. Do I have a bias by being me or is my mom actually being a *****?

If this is your biggest problem in life then you have a lot to be thankful for

Very sorry, sounds as if you handled things correctly as a mature adult would. Don't understand your mother being like that.

You should probably have told your mother that your phone would be off during the play. Your parents are responsible for your sister, not you - although it is kind of you to help out unless it is one of your agreed chores.

You say that you were upset with your mother, but what you probably did was worse than this, wasn't it?

Here are some general suggestions I make to younger teens in case you might get some helpful ideas from them. Ask to have a serious discussion with your parents about how they see things panning out in the coming months and years. It needs to be fairly rational, so if one of you becomes too emotional (e.g. Angry) it would be best to time out and try again another time. Prepare in advance what you would like to say and ask: write a plan, even.

As you reach each birthday, for example, or each new school year, what rights, freedoms and responsibilities will you have? Chores, pocket money, curfews, dating, etc. Will all come into it, obviously. You can't really expect something for nothing, so think about what you can put into the family and household as part of your negotiations as to what you can get.

If you are to grow into a responsible adult, it must be a gradual process: if they keep you wrapped up in cotton wool and then suddenly let you out of the box at eighteen, you won't have enough experience to know how to handle it.

That said, your parent(s) is/are responsible for your safety and welfare during this time: no doubt they love you and they themselves have the experiences you don't yet. Seeing things on t.v. And hearing your friends' (exaggerated?) stories aren't quite the same.

If they don't want to do this, ask them if they will please consider a plan and talk again in a week or so. All plans need to be a little flexible, as unexpected things can happen, of course.

Hopefully this will show that you have a maturing attitude to your family and your life.

Well, it seems like your mom kind of over-reacted. I can see why you were upset. And that punishment was Really harsh. You should try to talk it over with your mom, and be calm about it.

Your mom is the one being mean by not letting you see your friends, wonder what cps would say if you told them about it