My daughter accusing my Boyfriend of spying on her or trying to take a pic?

Me and my Boyfriend use to fight a lot when she was little we were both very immature. Daughter is controlling teen she can be manipulative. They are both very stubborn and both can be possessive as well. She does not want him with me she always says that if he Ever moves in she will leave me and go with her dad.He's never disrespected her or treated her bad. Yes they did argue Bc they both bump heads and both wanted me to take their sides. Well now she is stating that she saw someone put a black iPhone ynder the bathroom door and that it had to be home Bc only he has a black phone son small nephew and niece we're home that day too… They said they didn't see anything but they were in another room. Daughter did not see my boyfriend do this but she swears saw a phone trying to spy. I was sleeping. He says he never and would never do that that that is ridiculous and stupid to even think of. He said all he did was say good night To my son, then left. He remains calm. She gets mad and thT she saw a phone and that I should leave n I shouldn't talk to him, that who else would do that she cries and says she feels uncomfortable. There's no proof I ck his phone and did not see any vids or pics next morning Bc that's when my daughter told me. I don't know if she making things up or someone else did this? Or if he actual did thAt? Please help I need to have some insight? I'm in a very difficult situation. I feel torn I was finally good w him, she doesn't like that. She is so convincing but so is he

1. It is impossible to know who put the phone under the door. It doesn't matter whether it happened or not because it is impossible to know who did it. It might have been your boyfriend or it might have been one of the kids messing around.

What can you do? You need to keep a close eye for this kind of thing in the future. For now, tell your daughter that you will keep close watch, but that unfortunately, it is impossible to know who did it.

2. The phone under the door is not the important issue right now. What is important is the drama and bad feeling. I'll be blunt. Your language about your daughter is disgusting. It is no wonder that she is a problem child if you call her horrible names. Also, from what you're saying, you don't trust her and never, ever support her when your boyfriend is involved. This may be hard to hear, but you need to hear it: you sound like one of those irresponsible mothers who will do anything to keep a man--even betray your own kids.

Newsflash: if your daughter really is so bad, it is your fault. You raised her. You chose to tear her world apart by (presumably) breaking up with her father and then forcing a stranger into her home. Of course there are problems.

3. Talk to your daughter. Ask her if she has had any other uncomfortable experiences with your boyfriend. She could be telling the truth.

4. You need to start behaving differently. You should NOT be refereeing arguments between your boyfriend and your daughter. They should not be "bumping heads" because you're her mother and so you should be the one dealing with discipline, not your boyfriend. If she is rude to him, then that is disrespectful and you should deal with it.

You don't seem to realize that this situation is not about arguments between your daughter and your boyfriend. It is about your daughter feeling unwelcome in her own home. I would bet that her complaints about your boyfriend are partly a plea for support from you. And that you probably don't realize how hard he is on her. YOU need to be parenting her, not him.

She's probably making it up cause she don't want to live with him, just send her to her dads