Other people look fine in iphone selfshot i don't camera?

I'm a male and when I look in the mirror I look fine also when I take a picture of myself with my iphone in the mirror I look fine but when I point the Iphone at myself like arms-lenght I look very weird my hair looks weird and my face shape becomes different.

BUT WHEN i look on facebook and stuff and other places I see other people taking selfshots and they look fine they look like what they normally look you always see people taking pictures of themselfs at armslenght but why it gets so weird for me?

Added (1). Eddit: Still other people look fine on it how come i don't

You probably have large features in your facial structure, so when you use a phone camera which has like a wide angle lens, you get distortion. Get a real camera and shoot pictures (get a friend to take the picture) with at least a 50mm lens. More focal length if possible!

You can't expect a phone camera which was designed to take pictures of "fender benders" to be good at human beings. It "ain't gun-na happen!"

Selfies are difficult, at best. First, we never see ourselves as others see us. Next, it is a two dimensional representation of a three dimensional object, so there's distortion. On some people, the distortion works, so the camera loves them. On you, apparently, the distortion doesn't work, so the camera hates you.