I lost it with her and grabbed her shoulders and said will you cut it out and grow the hell up. I called her a bad word as well. We were like two little kids arguing over a toy. I'm never going to go on a vacation that she's on again and she said she's never speaking to me again which is fine with me.
Is it OK to grab someone by the shoulders since it's not going to injure them or was this assault? She's insane ( not literally) so she claimed I was choking her which of course was not at all the case. Those on the vacations that I was fine not to feel guilty but I kind of felt bad that I grabbed her by the shoulders. The aunt did smile and say "ooh, if it was your brother it would be OK but I wouldn't do it to a lady". Certainly I would never put my hands on a woman in terms of injuring a woman at all.
Excuse any grammar errors I'm talking into my iPhone.